Monday, February 23, 2009

Parents Just Don't Understand

Remember the old Fresh Prince song, "Parents Just Don't Understand". This one line has taken on a new meaning for me. Just in the last few months, I have found parents who don't have multiple children have no clue what it is like to be in our shoes. Even if you ask and we try to explain, you laugh it off and say, "Oh, I couldn't do that." or "I don't know how you do that." But then you do not hesitate to tell us what we are doing wrong when we won't do what you think is best for your organization or the activity or cause that you think is most important. Parents of one or two children don't understand that we as parents of more than 2 have to draw the line somewhere. If we don't, we are sacrificing precious time. My view of precious time is time spent with my family, friends and husband. Time on other things is important but not as important as my relationships. So all that being said, I hope you understand when we say "NO" to Cub Scouts every week. And "NO" to more time spent on instruments and band practices. And "NO" to sports that you think my child should be playing because "he is so good". And "NO" to Poker nights with the guys or girls night out when I haven't seen my family all week. So be mad if you want. Say whatever you want about Jim and I. You can even whisper behind my back if you want but we will not sacrifice our marriage and our family because you think these things are best. So next time you feel you need to judge me because I said "NO", try to put yourself in my shoes and then maybe you will be a little more understanding about the word "NO".

6 comments:

Ice House said...

Amen sister! From a mom with 4 kids myself I TOTALLY understand you!!

I love the ones with only 2 kids that are school aged that tell me how hard it is to do stuff.

Are you kidding me? Try taking an 11 yr old, 9 yr old, 6 yr old and 3 yr old to buy shoes....THEN we'll talk about how hard it is for you.

We moms of many children need to stick together!

You go girl...keep on saying "No" and I'll be right there with you ;-)

Marian said...

Hey girl,
What happened? When I read this post it was evident that "someone ticked you off!!" It's good for you to say no sometimes and it's good for others to hear it!

Windy said...

You tell 'em, girl! I have learned to say "no" a lot myself lately:)

James said...

Bam! Nuf said.

monica said...

I totally feel you on this post. I (only) have 3 sons myself, but most of my friends have only one child. They just don't understand why I make some of the decisions that I make. It makes me feel bad at times, but I usually just ignore them and go on about my business.

Michelle said...

I know what you mean...I only have two and that's hard enough...don't know how you do it!